Discover what you both want
Anonymously share desires, find matches, and deepen your connection. Desire menu, compatibility quizzes, AI coaching, and couple games.
22+ tools to understand, explore, and grow your relationship -- all in one private space.
Based on a study of 500 couples
Everything your relationship needs
22+ tools from first date to 30 years together. TOMNI grows with you.
Desire Menu
Anonymously mark desires. See only matches -- your partner never learns about your 'no'.
Daily Questions
A new question every day to spark meaningful conversations and discover each other.
Desire Signal
Send a subtle signal when you're in the mood. No awkwardness, just mutual understanding.
Couple Games
Truth or Dare, Would You Rather, predictions -- have fun and get closer.
Private Chat
Personal messenger with reactions, voice notes, and disappearing messages. Just for you two.
How it works
Three simple steps to a deeper connection
Create a couple
Sign up and send a code or QR to your partner. They'll join in a second.
Fill out the desire menu
Each marks their desires: 'Yes', 'Want to try', 'Neutral', or 'No'. Anonymously.
Discover matches
See only what you both like. Safe, shame-free, with the joy of discovery.